Did you know that the most rapid way to improve the quality of your life is to increase the time you spend around high quality mirrors?
Now such mirrors are unlike the reflective surfaces that you gaze at during sex with your partner; rather, these are mirrors in terms of those adept people who can validate your life experiences and accurately reflect your essence back to you, as well as your blind spots.
Being human entails the frustrating beauty that we are all too close to ourselves. At times, we can catch our quirks and idiosyncrasies as they occur. Yet, we are totally blind to most of them, which is why we need high quality mirrors around us.
If your kind, truthful, emotionally intelligent, non-judgmental friends can act as your mirrors as they hold space for your process, you’re truly blessed. Indeed, you need to learn to lean on those people and treat these valued relationships as gold.
After all, most folks are not as fortunate to have such close, compassionate friends or competent, caring confidants in their personal lives. If this is the case for you, you should seek out some talk-based therapy sessions with a highly recommended skilled life coach or therapist.
In my own practice, I have seen many clients derive immeasurable benefits from their sessions with me over time. In order to come to deeply know your shadow, therapy work is highly recommended, especially with a therapist who has done the rigorous work to integrate their own shadow. You will know that they have done this work if they do not shy away from diving into deeper themes in your sessions. Conversely, if they steer you away from discussing your grief, sadness, envy, anger or hatred in your early sessions, do not return for another session. Such a false guru does not deserve your time or money. After all, you deserve a real therapist who can actually hold space for your authentic Self, in all its configurations.
In the end, an effective therapist has a deep interest in their client as an individual and will see and relate to them in sensitive ways tailored to the client’s unique needs. No one-size-fits-all approach exists in therapeutic treatment as no person is like another. In order to be available to a patient and forge a solid relationship built on trust and understanding, the therapist must be equally attuned to the patient and their own state of being.