How many people feel complete self-love and self-compassion?  

Do you take care of your own needs and rely on how you look at yourself instead of seeing who you are through the eyes of your partner or tribe? 

Do you live from your core beliefs instead of living through what everyone else expects of you?

Learning self-love and overcoming barriers you’ve built against yourself are the greatest secrets to living happily. Self-love brings you closer to inner truth and lets you attract and create happiness in your relationships, career and life. Self-love brings love, fulfillment, serenity, balance, freedom, maturity, wisdom, and magic into your life.

Begin these self-love techniques today to attract the love and happiness you so richly deserve in your life:

Uncover Who You Really Are…Imagine yourself walking down the street with each one of your values. How do you feel? How are you expressing yourself? This helps you identify yourself through your own eyes rather than through the eyes of others.

Be true to yourself…You can only speak your truth and express who you are when you are totally honest with yourself first. Sometimes  you discover things you dislike about yourself, but you can either complain about your weaknesses or shift your attention to your strengths.

Take Care of Your Needs…We often do what others need so we can feel good about ourselves through the way they react to our action. This causes us to live life through the eyes of others and not from our core. Instead,  examine what your needs are. What is the ONE thing you can do today to make you feel more loved? Great examples include a enjoying a hot bubble bath, meditating, cleaning your room, or listening to your favorite band.

Learn to Breathe….We have a tendency to pressure ourselves into doing things quickly. Step back and watch yourself in action. What is the worst thing that could happen if you don’t get your tasks done immediately? Would you rather stay overwhelmed or enjoy your journey as you finish your tasks?

Be patient with Yourself…Have self-compassion. Your role models worked their butt off to get to where they are now, so be patient, take your journey step-by-step, and enjoy how your life is unfolding. You miss out on so much in life when you beat yourself up. Patience is key to discovering the beauty of the mystery that every moment brings to you.

Meditate…You cannot be in your body when you are constantly thinking. By calming the mind, your connect to your deepest self.  Trough connecting to your deepest self, you can unfold the mystery of your own happiness. 

Chant Silently…No matter your religion or spirituality, chanting is transcendental and a wonderful way to speak positive affirmations to the world. Take any mantra, prayer, or positive words and repeat them aloud, then say them silently within you. By chanting silently, you learn to listen and strengthen the bond with your intuition.

Listen to Your Inner Child….Your inner child is a very powerful voice that resides deep within your being. This is the voice of unmet childhood needs.   It talks to us about fear, hurt, and the safety that it is longing for and the love that it hungers for. So when you are in a challenging situation, step back for a moment and ask your inner child, “What’s really hurting me now? What do I really want?”

Count your blessings…We all have SO many blessings that we tend to take them for granted. Count every single thing you have in life and be thankful for it. It may be as simple as being grateful for drinking water whenever you want. Practicing gratitude helps find more meaning and appreciation in your daily life.

Accept your feelings…Pain is part of life, and accepting what you feel right now is the first step towards your happiness. You may be angry and in so much pain, you might be regretting what you have done in the past. Allowing yourself to feel helps you identify the root cause of your disappointment and the moment you understand this feeling, you shift towards discovering what you want in life and how to get it.

Do One Act of Kindness Daily…Say something nice to a colleague or family member and show appreciation to those around you. This not only acknowledges the goodness in yourself but it reflects the goodness in others.

Build your support system…You don’t have to hang out with people who don’t make you feel good about yourself. You have a choice, so find people who think like you, who are positive, who show support, who are grateful, and who reflect the quality that you want to have in your life.

Work with your fears…We all have fears that have been engraved within us ever since childhood. Understanding your fears and allowing them to surface will help you work through them. When you repress and reject your fears due to unrealistic societal expectations of being perfect, you grant more power and control to your fears.

Build your own spiritual practice…Whether or not you belong to a group or religion, your own spiritual practice is a great reminder to connect with yourself to surrender to what is right now. Your ritual can be simply burning incense, setting an intention, saying positive words to yourself and others, saying your favorite prayer, practicing yoga and meditation.

Recognize the Love within you…You are made of of love, you are love and love rules Earth. No matter how much you berate yourself or indirectly hurt others, in your heart you are seeking love in every waking moment. The one guarantee you have in life is that you can give love without expecting anything in return. Be the love that you want to experience in your life and in your relationship.

Forgive and Release the Past…Berating yourself and blaming your unhappiness on the past will trigger more suffering in your life. You have a life purpose, so you have a choice: let the past haunt you and inflict more suffering in your life, or forgive yourself.

Smile…Smiling heals heart, mind and body. Certain experiences can bring a smile to our face.  A heartfelt smile can shift a negative emotion to a positive one. It is a simple way to heal yourself and bring a smile to others’ faces.

You can stop and overcome the barriers that prevent you from getting what you want. You are strong and you are love in your own nature.  How are you going to use your amazing strengths to create the happy life and loving relationship you want?