Do you want to become better at fighting? Do you tend to fight a lot in your relationships? Do you bottle everything inside and then explode. Yes, it may create a short-living, intense relationship but it never creates a happy or healthy way to live for the long term.
Over time you have likely realized that there must be a far better way to express your anger and frustration instead of yelling and screaming because nobody is actually listening to you at that point.
In my sessions, I share with you many tools and frameworks to help with communicating all your needs, desires and emotions with those important people in your life in such a way that feels open, loving and harmonious. In the end, the goal is have everyone felt heard and understood.
Over the course of the pandemic, many people were sheltering in place and in each other’s space far more than ever before This can naturally cause a lot of tough issues to arise.
Six Effective Practices For Those difficult Moments
- Connect to your breath: Slow down your breathing and take deep breaths in and out your nose. Down regulate. When you connect to your breath, you can connect to your mind and body. When you do that, you can express whatever you are feeling more accurately. If someone is expressing anger towards you, practice deep breaths too. It will eventually slow everyone down enough to the point where you can hold a real conversation versus a screaming match.
- Attack the problem, not the person.
- It’s only a problem if you label it as such.
- What is the unmet need that is really at the root of it?
- Discover how to share what you are experiencing in the moment without having to resort to blame, shame and assigning guilt.
- You can be right or you can be in love but not both.
Using these practices will help you to no longer be the one slamming doors and yelling at the top of your lungs so that you can actually be heard. These practices will help you better understand and listen to what is really going on in your world. Indeed, they teach you how to effectively express yourself in a such a powerful but gentle way that can be fully heard and deeply understood by those who are most important to you,
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This is how you become a more fulfilled lover instead of a frustrated fighter!