The first level of touch is as light as a whisper. Barely touching your partner, you just softly hold them. This corresponds with the first level of speed, involving very small, slow micro movements such that your partner hardly knows that you are moving. Energetic touch comes not just from your body but also from the sun and earth moving through your body to theirs.

After spending some time in the first level of touch, move into the second and third level of touch by applying more pressure to your touch until you’re giving a light to medium massage. Add more depth to your touch by switching to different movements such as kneading and squeezing. While your touch deepens, you can consider increasing your speed as well. Note what effect each level of touch and speed has on your partner. Experiment with different types of touch, like palpitations or tapping. Do keep your touch light to medium unless you and your partner have discussed using a higher level of touch.

As well, practice running energy or transferring energy from one hand to the other. Attend to how your partner responds when you run energy and when you don’t.

Accessing higher levels of touch should only occur after conversing with your partner outside your session. These higher levels of touch involve some elements of pain, which both parties must consent to before exploring.

In the fifth level of touch, a mark is left on the skin but disappears by the end of the session, like a rosy glow from light spanking. Significant communication and well-defined boundaries/agreements are required before trying this out.  Should you choose to so experiment, you must mutually agree upon a way to communicate the desire to stop.

The sixth level and seventh levels of touch from the ancient art of Tantra were used more as a ritual element. They cause pain and leave a lasting mark on their skin via scratching, biting, spanking or other methods. Again, experimentation at this level requires a prior discussion with your partner on setting boundaries, including how you can both relay your desire to stop.

Do invite your partner into a session with the sole purpose of exploring and playing with the levels of speed and touch. Most people will be satisfied with levels one through four, and possibly level five. Keep the line of communication open with your partner and encourage her to provide feedback about your touch and what she likes the most.