Couples come into relationship with areas in their lives that are often incongruent with a healthy, trusting relationship. Love can take a couple to its threshing floor to show us these deep grooves that are out of integrity and give them the chance to light up the shadowy places that they may each have before justified, ignored or written off as “that’s just who I am.”
A pure heart manifests an increasingly pure life. The fact is that purity is not only for your protection individually and as a couple, but it is also your power. When two people stand together with nothing left to hide, they can move mountains in service to their own happy, prosperous life, as well as in service to the welfare of their entire community.
Trust is the foundation upon which all is built. A partnership is only as strong as the trust that two individuals have first in themselves, then share with each other. You must find out where your trust meter is set. As you get in touch and make peace with where trust is shaky, you can create new thought patterns that support deeper trust and forge a new solid foundation for intimate communication. Entering into a committed relationship is unquestionably the most accelerated way to grow and blossom spiritually. Since true spirituality is practical, it shows up in every aspect of your life as you develop more self-mastery in your social interactions and work in the world.
Affirmative Prayer is the most effective way to receive the help needed so as to see yourself and others through the lens of grace and compassion. It evokes the truth in yourself and in your relationship. As you open the door to your most vulnerable heart with these questions and contemplate their answers, ask for the grace, courage and clarity to witness your authentic Self along with the increasing awareness to shift your mindset from fear and doubt to trust and surrender. All this lends itself to the process of growing and becoming whole. To that end, ask yourself the following:
- Do you trust your partner?
- Do you trust that your love is safe? Think of a time when you felt deep trust in a partner. What did that feel like emotionally? How did it feel in your body?
- Do you fully trust yourself? If not, why?