With hanging out, people get together in groups and do things together; i.e., going to a club, a restaurant, or just staying home and playing Wii. The relaxed atmospher and opposite sex relations never rise above the level of friendship or friends with benefits. Nothing wrong with hanging out, but it cannot replace dating.
With dating, people pair off in a temporary commitment so as to get to know the other party better and maybe start a longterm relationship together.
The Decline of Dating. The following factors have contributed to the decline of dating among young adults.
- Young adults dislike commitment. It seems like younger adults are leary o making commitments to people or organizations. Generation Y is too busy finding themselves in order to commit to anyone or anything. Companies have complained about the turn-over rate of Generation Y. Companies invest lots of money training new employees only to have them leave after two years so they can find a new job. This reluctance to commit carries over to their heterosexual interactions. Young adults don’t want to be tied down to anyone just in case they get a yen to backpack in Thailand or study Spanish in Costa Rica.
- 2. The internet has hindered Generation Y’s social skills. Instead of telling a person directly that they’re interested in them by asking them on a date, Generation Y sends Crush alerts on Facebook. While social media has made connecting with others easier, it has also made us lazier at forging meaningful relationships. If you’re over 18 and still using Facebook to let someone know you’re interested in them, you need to give yourself a shake.
- Feminism. First off, it’s fabulous that women can now choose to have a career, be a stay-at-home mom or do both. Yet, it does confuse several issues for men. Navigating relations among the sexes is far trickier today that a couple of decades ago. Such uncertainties cause men to avoid dating altogether and opt for hanging out with women instead. After all, men have multiple questions running through their heads:
- Who asks?
- If I ask, will she think I’m too forward?
- Who pays for the date?
- Do we split the bill?
Men today are timid. Men today aren’t very resilient. They don’t know how to handle rejection or failure, so they avoid rejection or failure by not asking women out on dates.
Why date? A lot of men today don’t seem to know it, but marrying the right woman can be a desirable lifestyle choice. So while nothing is wrong with hanging out, it’s not a replacement for dating. Dating is the pathway to finding your true love and eventually settling down and getting married. As marriage is a one-on-one union, you must start getting to know women on a one-on-one basis. Are you just hanging out with her and your friends right now? If so, you need to take her on date or she’ll forever be in the friend zone. So, start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that tough to get a date with a woman.
Resurrect Dating In Your Life! So, you’re ready to start dating and stop hanging out. Are you wondering how to ask her out? If so, these proven guidelines can help move you up the ladder to actually dating from merely hanging out.
- She wants you to ask. Despite a liberated woman’s rhetoric, girls still appreciate it when a guy asks her out on a date. They like to see men take the initiative. Many bright, successful young professional women complain that men simply don’t ask them out. These smart, charming beauties don’t have a man. Be a man and ask these women out.
- Asking is easy. When you ask, however, do it in person or over the phone. Poking a woman you’re interested in on Facebook destroys your credibility as a man.
- Keep dating simple. Dates need not be huge, pricey affairs. Keep it simple. If you want to keep things informal, ask her out for lunch or coffee. If you want a more romantic date, invite her over to your place and make dinner for her. She’ll be impressed that you know how to cook. The idea behind dating is to achieve a one-on-one interaction with a woman to find out if she is someone you’d like to see on a longterm basis. Simple and frequent dates will facilitate this.
- Prepare for rejection. Not every woman you ask out will say yes so prepare for that. It’s no big deal if she says no. Think about it. You’re no worse off getting rejected than you were before you asked. You didn’t have a date with her before, you don’t have a date with her now. Your situation has not changed.
- Just do it! What are you waiting for? Pick up your cell phone right now and call a woman and ask her on a date. Stop hanging out and start dating. Stop fearing commitment so much as it is liberating, not confining.
When Should You Ask Girl Out? Like getting married, having a baby, or starting a business, there’s no right time to ask a girl out on a date. If you’re unsure, if she’s interested, learn how to know if a girl likes you. Just go ahead and ask her out if you’re interested. Will she say “no?” Perhaps but you won’t know until you ask.
By the way, even if she says no, you’re no worse off than you were before you asked.